posted 08-23-2001 10:02 PM
ADJ� sites back up, time to get back to business. Here are the answers:
During the week, I don't go to bed until 11:30pm or so
All people go to sleep at different times. The social norm is between 10p and 12a. Most people need 7-9 hours of sleep per night and start work in the morning from 8a to 10a.
I would expect it good manners to not call after 10:00�Other people I have spoken to often say that they think 10:00pm is about as late as they go
Most of the time, your calls won�t go past 10p anyway. The first calls should be under a few minutes, if that. You can fit 2-3 calls within the 15-minute time frame of 9:45p to 10p. I rarely go past 10:15p, 10:30p is just the cut-off point; that�s when the last call should end, not begin.
(one of my roomates is in bed by 9:00!).
I assume it�s a guy that doesn�t enjoy the nightlife. If she�s a girl, looks good, and got approached by me�you can bet she�ll be awakened by a call between 9:45p and 10:30p. If you happen to wake her up around this time, it�s not bad at all; she�ll have a higher tendency to go to sleep with only you on her mind.
A couple of weeks ago, I tried to call a girl at about 9:30pm, she was already in bed
As I said in the above, don�t worry about waking the girl up. If she said she was sleeping or her voice sounds a little groggy, don�t hang up or say, �did I wake you up?� Continue with what you called to speak about, a few minutes won�t hurt her.
If you�ve followed the �pre-calling procedure correctly�, they usually won�t tell you to call back tomorrow b/c they�ve been waiting in agonizing anticipation for you to even give them a call. If she does ask you to call her tomorrow, you know what to do�follow additional playa tip #1. �Ok...I�ll try to�. The next time you call, make sure it�s 30-60 minutes earlier.
What has your experience generally been?
�The initial call is like the initial approach, you must create a good impression�
�Occasionally you can call the third week and say you�ll call the following week�
Here�s something else you can do. Call her even if your calendar�s full and set up a date anyway. Say you call on Sunday and set up a date for Wednesday with one girl. Then you call another girl and set up a date with her on Wednesday too. Why should you do this, so you can cancel one of the dates. It also serves as a back up plan if one of the girls decides to call and cancel.
Wait until the night before the date to call and cancel. In my example, I would call Tuesday night to say something like, �Something important just came up and I can�t make it tomorrow�but I should be available next week, lets get together then ok?�
If she asks what came up just say, �It�s something personal�next week would be a lot better for me ok?�
If you get her answer machine just say, �Hey <her name>, this is <your name>�something important just came up and I can�t make it tomorrow. But I should be available next week, let�s get together then ok�bye�.
Setting up multiple dates at the same time just so you can cancel some is a very good way to build her interest for you. They had their minds set on going out with you and she might have even cancelled other plans she had just for you. Use this tactic to keep them interested and stay in touch with them without having to wait 3 or 4 weeks before calling.
One more thing I forgot to add was that you shouldn�t cancel two dates in a row with the same girl, it has a tendency to back fire and she won�t accept your date the third time around.
�The game won�t adapt to you, you must adapt to the game�
[This message has been edited by Pimpologist (edited 08-24-2001).]