posted 12-13-2001 01:30 PM
Greetings my Fellow DJ's!
Once again, I'll post one of the tips I've picked up along the way on this journey towards Don Juan-dom.
Tip: Pursue and date more than one woman at a time.
Read it again; it's important.
I can't count the times I've read a post by some guy who pines away for the "perfect" girl only to find out she's got a boyfriend, or isn't interested. He then logs on here and sobs uncontrollably until we tell him to buck up and grow a pair and move on.
How can such a scenario be avoided? Easy. Never try to pursue only one woman at a time!
But Gipper, I hear you ask, how does this help? I'm in love!
No you're not, dammit!
You are infatuated, at best. This realization came to me after I had actually succeeded in dating two women over the course of a weekend. I felt no pressure on either date, and had a great time with both. I was attracted to both women, but I didn't know them.
I think part of the problem is how a lot of us are brought up to think that we must see only one woman at a time, or we are perceived as cads or 'gasp', players. You must think in a new paradigm (although I hate such buzzwords).
You cannot, I repeat, cannot fall in love with one woman after going out with her once and twice. In fact, I will go so far as to say it will take you many weeks and months before choosing a woman you deem worthy of a long-term relationship.
What are the benefits of such a technique?
1. You don't become obsessed with one girl. If this girl is your only hope for romance or sex, she becomes overly important to you, which makes you too careful about how you act around her. You can't be lighthearted and fun, which really hurts you in the long run.
2. You can gauge which girl is really more fun to be around. If you only see one girl, your mind may play a trick on you, making you believe she likes you a lot more than she really does.
3. If one girl bails on you, you have a backup. This should be enough reason to try multiple chicks.
4. It's great practice.
5. It makes it easier to approach new girls. Hey, if she rejects you, so what? You're already seeing someone.
I could probably think of some more reasons, but you should get my point by now.
Don't believe me? Fine. But at least try dating two or more women at once. It will be one of the greatest DJ experiences you will ever have.