posted 12-15-2001 02:36 PM
Gusy, I came to a major insight yesterday.
The big insight is in the use of one single word, BABY.
I'll explain a little later.
For a long time I'd been trying to figure out how to sexualize a conversation with a woman you want right from the start.
Because you know how you're supposed to reveal your interest right away, right?
Well I experimented this week with telling chicks right off the bat, right after meeting them, that I was going to try to get their number.
I did this using humor saying, "Well, you know, I really stopped by to ask you about your shoes (I asked them a question about their shoes), but now that I'm here, I'm going to have to get your number."
I thought this would be good because it would immediately reveal my interest, right?
But it didn't work so well.
In fact, right when I said I wanted to get her number, she would withdraw.
There are a few reasons for this I think -- one, you're revealing your intentions; two, you're indicating that it's nothing about her personality that you like, as you've just been talking to her for a second.
Anyways, so I was thinking, how can you sexualize a conversation right away.
And I realized you can do so by using a term of address:
When I first thought of this, I thought, nah, that can't work, that's cliched, it's considered sexist, a chick will get offended, and more.
But then I realized that all of my negative thoughts about using that word to refer to a girl came from cultural conditioning -- pretty much the feminist movement.
And so I decided to try it. I addressed a hot girl using the term -- and immediately she knew I was into her.
I said, "Hey baby, can you tell me what year your car is?"
And she immidiately started playing with her hair, and more.
But I was still a little apprehensive about using the term. I guess I thought it might offend some girls.
But then I realized that really hot girls probably are used to the term.
Plus using the word I think WILL SHOW THAT YOU HAVE COMPLETE CONFIDENCE IN YOURSELF.
Because consider this:
A NICE GUY WILL NEVER ADDRESS A GIRL HE DOESN'T KNOW USING BABY.
Think about it.
You know what else, I realized I never addressed my ex-girlfriend, my first girlfriend, using the word baby.
I never did because maybe the word "baby" immediately establishes you as a dominant over the girl, and since she was my first girlfriend maybe I didn't get the confidence to go for that dominance...
Maybe we can get a (figurative) show of hands here on how many guys have frequently addressed their girlfriends or ex-girlfriends using the term "baby."
Anyways, I would suggest that guys field test using this term.
And think about how very sexual it is.
It's pretty easy to say to a hot girl.
But imagine saying it to an older, dowdy woman!!!
No way, right? Well that shows how very sexual the word is.
The question is (and I'll drop another topic on this), what type of tack do you take after you've sexualized the conversation by using the word "BABY"?
PS, If you want to see the someone use the word BABY with great confidence, see the movie _Made_. Vince Vaughn is a real pimp. He's so confidence he just does not give a fukk.
[This message has been edited by BGC (edited 12-15-2001).]