9 Reasons More Older Women Are Dating Younger Guys That You Need To Know

by Nicole Atkins

It’s no secret older men date young, beautiful girls. Hollywood has been exploiting the stereotype for decades, both on and off the screen. What you might not know is that older women also pursue younger guys. There are many reasons older women are dating younger guys. As you’ll see, most of those reasons lead back to her own love and joy.

The cougar stereotype isn’t even close. Relationships between older women and younger guys are healthier and happier than any washed up feline could represent. If you’re curious why older women are into younger guys, the mystery is over. We’ve got 9 reasons more older women are dating younger guys. Reasons you need to know. And as a bonus, some tips on how to approach them with confidence.

She Wants to Be Happy

According to one study, women who are at least ten years older than their partner are happier in their relationships. Scientists think it’s because older women who date younger guys experience more equality. Nobody puts Baby in the corner.

Whatever the reason, these women are happier and more committed. This is reflected in the growing number of women who are dating younger guys. The word is getting out. Women are realizing they’re entitled to the same happiness their male counterparts have been enjoying for years.

She Loves the Thrill of It

Many older women experience a sense of rejuvenation when they date a younger guy. Maybe it’s his robust charm or the novelty of dating someone younger. The thrill that comes with dating a younger guy can keep the honeymoon period lasting longer than it does in traditional relationships.

That excitement keeps the neurotransmitter dopamine flowing through your brain. Dopamine is an essential chemical for prolonged feelings of passionate love. If you are wondering if you can make it happen check out these tips to make her chase you.

She Knows She'll Be Appreciated

The secret is out. Older women are reading about it, hearing about it, and seeing it with her own eyes. They’re more appreciated by younger guys. They can share their wisdom and experience without being patronized.

This is one of the most frequently cited reasons older women date younger guys. They feel valued in the relationship. Younger guys listen more attentively and take part in the conversation. They ask questions and invite answers. They engage. They’re open and welcoming. Why wouldn’t they want more of that?

TIP: Wow an older woman by giving her a sincere compliment. Start a dialogue and get to know her a little. When the time is right, let her know how impressed you are by her intelligence, her warm heart, her compassion, or her worldly experience. These are things that have to be earned. She’ll appreciate the acknowledgment and will take notice of your insight.

It Is Easier Than Ever for Older Women to Meet Younger Guys

One of the most difficult things for women interested in dating younger guys is meeting them without it being awkward or difficult. It isn’t always easy for women to tell if a younger guy would be interested and the same is true in reverse.

Thanks to the the explosion in popularity of online dating it is now extremely easy for these connections to happen without any fear of rejection. In fact, there are several great dedicated dating sites for older women interested in younger men.

She Wants an Upgrade Between the Sheets

She knows what she wants, and she knows a younger guy has it. Stamina, energy, agility, open-mindedness, and desire. She’s in her sexual prime. She wants a guy who can meet her on her level. And why shouldn’t she?

Any guy who’s had blue balls knows how frustrating it can be. An older woman who dates a guy her age gets blue tubes every time he forgets to pop that pill first. She’d much rather date someone who can move her in the sheets and stay awake long enough to catch a late-night movie afterward.

She Is Looking for Commitment

Research shows relationships between older women and younger guys last at least two years, on average. Women are taking notice of this and venturing outside their age bracket. Many older men are on the rebound from a divorce and have no idea what they want. They’ll often admit they don’t want to marry again or aren’t looking for a “long-term thing.” The data don’t lie. If a woman wants to date a guy who’s open and ready to explore commitment, she knows where to find him.

She Doesn't Want Drama

Older women know from experience that dating younger guys come with less drama. Most older men have relationship drama or complicated kid circumstances to work around. Younger guys have less baggage and cynicism. They aren’t jaded or set in their ways. They’re still willing to try new things, be open to experiences, and have adventures. This creates an environment where the relationship can grow organically, with trust and openness.

TIP: When you meet an older woman, leverage the fact that you don’t come with a suitcase full of drama. Let her know you’re willing to be serious, but that you want to have fun. If she knows she has options, she’s more willing to go into it with an open mind and heart.

She Loves the Spontaneity

Most younger guys have fewer responsibilities. They’re usually just starting their careers, not bogged down with unreasonable schedules. More freedom for short notice and spontaneity.

Older women love that. They’re tired of the mundane schedules they’ve grown accustomed to. They want to be with someone who can share their thirst for adventure. A weekend wine tasting trip or last-minute evening hike. Few things are more romantic than dropping everything for a weekend alone.

She Wants a Guy She Can't Stop Looking At

Call it what you want. Older women are having their liberated cake and eating it too. They’re realizing they can be with a guy who makes them happy and has it going on. More older women are going for guys they can show off to their friends. He’s smart, he’s fun, and he’s sexy from every angle. Many women feel pressured to stay fit and youthful through their older years. Why shouldn’t they be with a guy who’s at least as fit as they are?


All women have their own reasons for dating younger guys, but these are the most common. The result is a growing trend of proud, successful women dating guys five, ten, sometimes fifteen years their junior. In a liberated society, women are beginning to feel open about their dating preferences. You see it in the business world, among celebrity couples, and within royalty.

And if you pay close attention to the media, you’ll notice that the younger guys are always smiling.

About the Author: Nicole was trained as an academic dating and relationship researcher. Working with industry experts like John Gottman, she became adept at knowing what makes couples tick. She decided to forgo academic endeavors in favor of the pen. As a writer, she works to bridge the gap between academia and the masses by making science easier to enjoy. When she's not writing, she's climbing mountains and photographing her adventures.