This Is More Important Than Getting Girls
Age brings wisdom.
Usually too late, but it does bring wisdom.
So for the young guys willing to listen, us old guys can supply valuable knowledge, without you having to experience the pain and frustration of learning it on your own.
I know, pain is a wonderful teacher. Probably the best. But listening to someone who's been there...
... Is less painful.
This gets to "getting a life."
Most guys in their early teens start to notice women and desire the touch, the smell, and all the good things women have. They are soft, they smell good, and above all feel good. This is why we desire them.
So the natural reaction is when you see something you want, you chase after it, pursue it.
This is where we make...
Our First Mistake
Guys get consumed with women, sex, dating, the whole thing.
Guys change their look, their personality, their identity, in hopes of attracting women. There is a powerful craving for the leg candy. So we alter our true being in hopes of getting the leg candy.
Major Wrong Move!
I'm not saying that you shouldn't look your best, have a good sense of humor, be mildly flirtatious, etc. You pursue and flirt, but subtly and with class. Like no one even notices. That's a true Don Juan.
Women spot desperation and hunger a mile away. They see it in your eyes, your body language, and your interaction. They also spot confidence and class. It's a 6th sense for them.
What then, do you do?
The Key Is to Get a Life
If you have 10 hobbies or interests in your life, such as golf, collecting stamps, swimming, fishing, etc., women should be about #5 on that list.
NOT #1.
This is where the hunger and desperation comes in. You get hungry and desperate, and you will get rejected fast.
Ouch! Confidence falls, and a vicious cycle starts.
The way to avoid this is to never let it happen in the first place.
Remember, confident guys desire affection/sex but do not crave it. They have other things going on in their life, besides trying to get laid every day. Trying to get "laid every day" is the quickest way to not getting laid at all.
So, get a life. Get hobbies, have guy friends that think the way you do, confident guys that love women, but don't obsess over them. Play golf, fish, shoot pool.
And if you meet a girl through your activities and you click – wonderful. This is the kind of girl you want. She understands you have a life and won't expect you to drop everything for her all the time.
If you meet a girl through your activities, and you don't click – so be it. No big deal. The hungry/desperate would get bummed and sulk about this, but not you. You have life, interest, friends, etc.
Remember...
"A woman is like your shadow. Chase it and it moves away. Move away from it and it follows."
SoSuave Note: Women are very important. No doubt about it.
But what's more important is to create a great life for yourself.
If you want to attract a high-quality woman, you must first build a high-quality life. One that sustains your happiness... with or without a woman.
“The 22 Rules That Let Me Go From Zero to Hero With Women… And How You Can Use Them Starting Tonight”
No, you don’t have to be rich. No, you don’t need to be famous. And no, you definitely don’t need to look like Brad Pitt.
I used to be you. Shy. Awkward. Tongue-tied around women I found even mildly attractive. And yet… somehow I figured out how to turn things around. Not just a little. A LOT.
It started with learning 22 simple rules that changed everything.
