Are You the Jealous Type?
I hope not!
Jealousy is one of the quickest and surest ways to get dumped.
Jealousy is a sign of insecurity. It indicates a lack of confidence on your part. By acting in a jealous fashion you're essentially "telling her" that you don't feel worthy of her love, and that you're worried she's going to find one of the many, many guys out there who are "better than" you.
Not to mention the fact that it's an incredibly annoying personality trait.
Never forget that women are attracted to confidence in men. If a woman realizes that you're lacking in self-confidence then she'll lose respect for you. And if she doesn't respect you, she CAN'T love you. And every time you act like a jealous idiot, you lose more of that respect.
Now don't try to tell me that you're the "jealous type" not because of a lack of confidence, but because you really love and care about her. Or because you can't trust her. I'm not buying it... and she won't either.
Jealousy is about YOU and your feelings of insecurity; your lack of confidence; your feelings of inferiority. And it's your problem. It has nothing to do with her. (And if you really can't trust her, then why are you wasting your time. Find someone that you can trust.)
So what do you do if you ARE the jealous type?
Well, since you know that acting in a jealous fashion will push her away from you (by decreasing respect) and acting in a confident fashion will draw her toward you (by increasing respect), then...
... ACT CONFIDENT.
Let her do whatever she wants. Give her all the freedom she wants. Don't complain when she goes out with her friends. Smile when she says she's going to have lunch with her old boyfriend. Encourage her to go to that male strip club. Proudly display your confidence to her.
And know that ACTING CONFIDENT in the face of these circumstances (which make most men jealous) will actually draw her to you. By doing this, you're essentially turning a negative personality trait (jealousy) into a positive personality trait (self-confidence).
You should welcome these types of situations and view them as OPPORTUNITIES to display your confidence to her... and to draw her closer to you.
Powerful Stuff!
Allen Thompson
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