Some Essential Dating Advice for Men

by Mike Pilinski

If you're a single guy still looking for your dream girl, I'm sure you've absorbed lots of advice on how best to meet and date women by now. A lot of it is "common sensical" as you well know.

Therefore, assuming you know enough not to show up on a first date looking like you just combed your hair with an M-80 or wearing cowboy boots and shorts, maybe a few of the following ideas can give you just enough of an edge to make the difference between Date #2 with an exciting little fox -- and a date with ol' Rosie Palm instead. Check these out:

1) Don't Try to Act Like a Fake on the First Date

A woman often makes a far more profound emotional investment into a relationship than a man does. So for her, TRUST is an immensely important issue. Dating is not just a convenient way to get her rocks off, it's a case study in the male psyche.

Can she trust you to ever be a good future father? Don't laugh, unless she's middle-aged and well beyond the kids & husband phase of her life, this "mating calculus" is ALWAYS running somewhere in the back of her mind.

Acting like a phony with an obviously fake 'come-on' personality only demonstrates how easily you are willing to embrace deception in order to get something you want. To any woman other than the sad exception of the chick who's looking for another loser for her next AA reclamation project (maybe 10% to 15% of the female population), you are TOTAL POISON. A potential cheater and heartbreaker just waiting for his next victim to arrive.

She may dump you right away, OR depending on the depth of her general bitterness towards men, keep you around to engage in a little recreational tease and torturing if she's got a vendetta to settle with a guy like you. Beware!

2) Create New Memories Instead of Swapping Them

Here's the very best dating advice I can ever give anyone: in order to make any date memorable and fun, spend 90% of your activities in the present moment.

It's easy to get caught up in the "talking trap" on a date -- where the two of you sit around and get lost in deeper and deeper conversation. These 'chatting dates' can slip out of control and become subtle passion-killers though, especially if you're not careful to keep the big picture in focus.

Before you know it, you're spilling your guts about Father Hamhands from your altar boy days or waxing poetic about your hemorrhoids and how they love to swell up in the springtime. Yeesh. As Joey from the TV show Friends once scolded his buddy Chandler, "... ok, that's TOO MUCH information!..."

For a seduction to go off like a thing of beauty, you must reveal yourself SLOWLY -- bit-by-bit -- as you gradually come to know her. Think of dating as an emotional veil dance... a striptease -- the point of which is to make her anticipate when the next Veil of Male Mystery will come off! This is the kind of thing she's been DREAMING about all her life. Why? Because it makes everything that's to follow (including the sex) all that much more delicious for her.

So put ACTION ahead of endless yakking. Stay active on a date (it doesn't have to be an extreme sport-fest or anything, just visiting a flea market will do...) so that you are BUILDING a memory with her instead of SHARING one. Focus on having experiences with her that the two of you can reminisce about some day in the future -- instead of spending time caught up in a lot of drawn-out amateur psychotherapy sessions in a bar somewhere.

Conversation is very important in any new relationship, and is the pathway to her eventual sexual surrender, but you must provide her with a REASON to want to know so much about you *FIRST* before opening your soul. Never forget the importance of your veil dance.

3) Don't Be a Bore

A boring person is anti-charismatic -- which is to say that, instead of making people feel GOOD about themselves by acting interested in them, the boring person makes us want to run away screaming from the agony of having to listen to another second of his self-absorbed droning!

The point of conversation should always be focused on drawing HER interests out instead of dwelling on your own (but don't come across like a ruthless Nazi interrogator -- go easy on the unbroken string of questions). Share a little -- but keep YOUR interests lost in the background.

Her response to a few casual queries about her life or current dreams holds clues to your *LifeLine*. Cling to it tightly and work on expanding its scope. Submerge your own ego for the first few dates. Don't worry, when you finally hook her she'll begin questioning you intently... maybe TOO intently! But that probably won't happen until after you've had sex. (Then get ready for the onslaught!)

4) Forget About Trying to Act "Like Yourself"

The standard dating advice of "being yourself" or "acting like yourself" (whatever the hell that means) is pure "Oprah-istic" B.S.

Learn to strike a balance between coming on like a phony-baloney (which we talked about earlier), and seeming too safe and friendly. Seduction is a delicate bubble that can be burst with increasingly less effort as it ripens. A first date is NOT the place to remain in the role of your everyday average old sort of guy... that's spells B-O-R-I-N-G. A spark must be present to ignite the *fires of desire* in the old primal portion of her brain.

So that means you have to be EXCITED to be out with her! When you think about it, it should be easy to get juiced up... dating someone for the very first time is not something that happens every day in anyone's life. Face it, ordinary life sucks.

Romance is a fantasy voyage, an escape from the 9 to 5 daily drudgery of work, etc. Treat this rare event for what it is... something unique, unrepeatable and potentially unforgettable. Even if she seems too cool to care, trust me... her romance motor is humming along in high gear.

5) Five Minutes of Nerves Is Normal, Then Calm Down

After some initial awkwardness due to understandable jitters, you should be able to calm down and hit your stride. If you have a real problem controlling automatic body reactions to nervousness (bad sweating, stuttering, facial twitching, etc.) my best advice is to get a book on yoga and practice it WITH AN OPEN MIND.

You don't have to go nuts and join the Green Party or anything, but DO try some of the deep breathing and relaxation techniques. They really work and can give you the self-control edge you might need. This will project through in your attitude as a cool confidence that is the unmistakable sign of a High Status Male!

Learn to always keep your movements around the women you're trying to seduce graceful and deliberate like a snake charmer. Modulate your voice in a throaty style (lowered volume) and keep the tone of your words sounding a little bit "conspiratorial" (without going overboard and making a fool of yourself). A squeaky voice spells fear and sounds adolescent, so strive to keep it in check. Be self-aware.

6) Obsession Is the Hallmark of the Weak Male

Dominant males will show an interest in any attractive woman they encounter because they are highly sexually driven. But -- because they have many options with females open to them -- they do NOT act obsessive about any *particular* woman. So don't be obsessed with her... just be interested.

Proclaiming ridiculously inappropriate nonsense like "...I love you" or "You're the girl I've been searching for my whole life..." on a first or second date is the frightening talk of the potential stalker. You become RADIOACTIVE to women once word of your engaging in this kind of bizarre behavior spreads. And it will spread... women gossip like demons. So chill the subservient groveling and act like you've been down the dating & mating road a few times already.

7) No Matter What Happens, Assume She Likes You... and Believe It

I'm not kidding here... this is an essential Jedi mind trick that you MUST somehow learn to play on yourself. Simply ASSUME that any woman you're working will *always* like you -- and do whatever the hell it takes to sell this idea to your unconscious mind!

Women can become mesmerized by men who seem to be captivated by them. But this kind of 'vibe' can only shine through your body language if it's GENUINE -- and for that to happen, you have to believe that she will respond favorably to you... *no matter what*.


Your attitude is a naked expression of your unconscious beliefs about yourself. Therefore, it is interpreted BY OTHERS as revealing the absolute truth about you... whether YOU like it or not. Control the self-image that you project to the world by pushing the crappy beliefs about yourself out of your brain, and replace them with empowering ones that will advance your own personal 'cause' for a change. Strive to deliberately manipulate this critical part of your consciousness, and watch your world change before your eyes like magic.

Before long, you'll soon have your pick of all the best looking women in YOUR world!

Mike Pilinski is the author of "Without Embarrassment: The Social Coward's Totally Fearless Seduction System"... a unique method of meeting girls that will have you making up for wasted time spent living in shy-guy hell from the very first moment you test it out.

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