7 Deadly Texting Mistakes and How to Avoid Them
One of the most frustrating things is when you get a woman's number (and she seems to be totally into you)
… But then after a few texts she seems to lose interest, fizzle out, or go cold.
The natural reaction is to blame the woman. “She's a flake…”
But if you do that, you could missing a giant crink in YOUR GAME that is easier to fix than you think.
In fact, if you're like most guys than you're probably making one (or a few) of these common ‘texting' mistakes that will kill your chances with a girl.
The 7 Deadly Texting Mistakes
Mistake #1: Confusing Responses for Attraction
Before you've had your first date with a girl, she won't feel much of a connection to you. As unfortunate as it may be, you're probably not the only guy texting her.
See, a common mistake most guys make when they're texting a girl is that they mistake responses for attraction. Often when a guy is getting a response from a girl, he believes that he's getting closer to getting her on a date or to seducing her.
The exact opposite is true!
The more texts you send before meeting up with a girl means the less of a chance you have of actually meeting up with her! That's right: even if a girl is RESPONDING to your texts, you're not getting yourself ANY closer to actually getting her out on a date.
Instead, say more with less.
Whenever you're considering what to text a girl, see if you can say it simpler, with less text. Most guys send pointless texts to women like, “How's your day?” or “Enjoying the warm weather?” These texts DO NOT bring you ANY closer to a woman! They just beg for a response (which doesn't mean anything).
To make sure you NEVER again waste texts on pointless chatter, ask yourself this golden question:
How is this text bringing this girl and I closer to a date?
If your answer is simply “to get her to know her better,” erase the text. It's not going to help you.
Mistake #2: Not Conveying “Fun”
Here is the simple truth. When a woman gives you her number she is NOT signing a social contract to go out with you…
And until it seems FUN for her… she's probably not going to bother meeting up with you.
So when you send boring texts that don't display any personality or don't elicit any emotions in her… in her mind you're not worth the trouble of meeting up with.
Here are some signs you're NOT being fun.
- Am I being stiff and formal “Hi. It was nice meeting you friday”…. (too stiff. too formal)
- Am I putting pressure on her to keep the convo going?
- Am I badgering her with questions?
Remember, every text you send should make you seem like the FUN OPTION. The escape from her boring day.
Mistake #3: Not Having a Texting Style
If you're texting an attractive woman chances are you are NOT the only guy she is getting a text from today.
Hate to break it to you.
But between other guys pursuing her, ex boyfriends, co-workers, classmates, and so on… she's got a lot of guys vying for her attention.
So if you want to stand out, your texts need to display your unique style and personality.
She should be able to know its a text from you just by reading it (even if the name was blocked).
What words, phrases, punctuation, or emoticons are uniquely yours?
Mistake #4: Having Long Text Conversations
Text conversations are NOT the same as actual conversations.
Texting should be the “Super cool” cliff notes of a normal conversation. Meaning leave out the formalities.
The longer the conversation the more chances to mess things up or run into akward confusion.
Every time you pick up the phone… jump right into the good stuff. Start with an anectdote. Start with a teasing nickname. Find a way to quickly spark an emotion and get her paying full attention to you.
Mistake #5: Going for the Meetup without Sparking Emotion
Here is another hard, cold fact. If you ask a woman to hang out, without first sparking an emotion.. she will almost always turn you down.
Because all of the positive emotions she felt when she was with you have dwindled.
And the thought of getting dressed up, and going to meet a guy she barely knows (and the potential you'll turn out to be a creep or just awkward) is not worth the effort.
Logically she can easily talk herself out of it.
Which is why you MUST engage her on an emotional level first.
It is MUCH easier to get a “yes” out of a woman once you've sparked a positive emotion.
The two best ways to do this are with flirting or humor.
Here's an important concept...
She is NOT going to remember all your good qualities. So it's your JOB to remind her.
Mistake #6: Becoming too “Predictable”
Lets say that you've now succeeded in getting a date with a girl. You may think you're home free when it comes to texting, but there's still some things you need to keep in mind to ensure you CONTINUE to see your girls.
First, you never want to fall into predictable patterns. Lots of guys use the same jokes, same questions, and same texts over and over. While it may be easier to fall into “complacency” with a woman you're dating, don't do it!
Instead, break things up with something spicy every once in a while. Tell her you have a “surprise” to show her later. Tell her something reminded you of her, but don't tell her what it is right away. Ask her to send you a funny picture of something (or send her a funny picture of something).
Keep her guessing what your text will be and you'll keep her interested in you. Moreover, keeping the “spark” of a relationship alive is very important when it comes to creating a great sex life.
As long as you don't become ultra predictable, you should have your girl texting YOU asking YOU when you're available to hang out.
Mistake #7: Thinking She's Different
I have stressed over and over again “Never tell a girl how you feel about her over text”…
Yet, day after day I get emails from students telling me a story about how they confessed their feelings to a girl over text…
And every time they scare the girl away.
In your mind, you're going to try to convince yourself that “She is different.”
Or that “It won't work on her.”
But the minute you tell yourself ‘she's different' you are on the road to losing her…
Guys continually do things like:
- Texting her too much
- Paying her gushing compliments over text
- Not asking her to hang out because you're scared…
And time and time again they'll face the same consequences as all the other guys have…
She's not different. And if anytime you start thinking she is, pull out this article and re-read it.
So now that you know the big mistakes you need to avoid, it's time formulate a solid game plan.
In this video you're going to learn how to turn your phone into a magnet… by using a specific sequence of texts called: The Key Lock Sequence.
Some of the things you'll learn:
- How to captilize on attraction before it fades
- The single biggest ingredient for capturing her attention
- 3 specific types of texts you need to send (in order) to turn her on and get her anxious to meet up.