The Top 10 Attraction Secrets Women Know That Men Don't

by Joseph Matthews

Let's face it - women know much more about how to attract someone than men do.

Hey, it's not our fault. Women have YEARS of practice at getting people to notice them! They have lots of experience with getting guys to like them. In other words: They've gone through the training!

If you've ever seen a guy get so bent out of shape over a girl he liked, then you'll know exactly what I mean when I say...


But the funny thing about attraction is that it cuts both ways. Men can actually learn these secrets too and get great results with them.

So what are they?

SECRET 1:  Know What You Want

Too many guys suffer from the problem of having to "take what they can get." Women tend to get a lot of suitors coming their way, so they can be a little bit more picky.

When you know what you're looking for in a partner, you're not only screening potential candidates, but you're making a very powerful statement as well.

You're showing that you're not desperate. That you are the one with the power because you are doing the judging. And when you're the one with the power, you're the one who must be pursued.

SECRET 2:  Be The Prize

Being the one pursued means that you have a certain amount of value to others. They want you, for some reason, and it's now their job to try and get you.

In order for this to happen, you must place a certain value on yourself. You must feel like you are worthy to be pursued by others, and you must communicate this fact with your actions and attitude.

Girls get lots of guys trying to impress them. But it's the rare guy they want to impress who winds up with them.

SECRET 3:  Dress To Impress

Women place a lot of importance on how they look. It's for this reason that many of them get the male attention they do.

Women understand that what you wear helps to get others to notice you. In fact, because women are so in-tune with fashion, they really tend to notice how a guy dresses.

A man who understands how to cultivate his own appearance and look good will get a lot of attention from women, not just because he looks nice, but because he's communicating he understands how important appearance is to them.

SECRET 4:  Smell Fantastic

All too often, men ignore the sense of smell. They don't bother to put on cologne or after-shave. But women know that if you're going to attract someone, you need to appeal to all the senses.

Think about the perfumes women wear that drive you wild and you'll know just how important smelling good can be.

Wearing a good cologne around a woman can do wonders to make her aroused in your presence.

SECRET 5:  Be Interesting

Despite all the physical traits involved in attraction, having nothing but good looks can wear thin quickly. This is why it's important to be interesting.

Being interesting equates to having something to talk about that the person you are trying to attract can relate to.

Being up to date on current events, pop culture, music, gossip, and any number of things can help a woman feel interested in spending time with you.

But in addition to knowing what to talk about, you also have to be able to LISTEN and let the other person relate to you. After all, nothing is more interesting than someone who is interested in you.

SECRET 6:  Do What's Unexpected

Doing what is not expected of you can create an air of excitement and uncertainty around you. It keeps people on their feet and attentive when around you.

Of course, you shouldn't be comical when doing the unexpected, such as suddenly shouting out a curse word or something ridiculous like that.

Instead, you have to play against expectations. For instance, instead of complimenting a girl on her looks, compliment her on her intelligence. She probably does not get a lot of compliments like that, and it will make you stand out.

Taking her out on a creative date, instead of your typical dinner-and-a-movie is unexpected as well.

When you do what's not expected of you, you keep excitement alive.

SECRET 7:  Be Hot And Cold

Emotions are what must be stimulated to make attraction work. Without emotion, attraction is impossible.

But too much of one emotion is just as bad as a lack of emotion. Feeling good all the time or feeling bad all the time causes us to stray from the person we are with.

When you alternate between hot and cold emotions, you create an emotional roller coaster that keeps things interesting and your partner interested.

Women do this all the time. They will act very interested and attracted to you, and make you feel good. Then, they'll act like you're not there and ignore you, and make you feel bad.

This constant alternation of good and bad feelings keeps their partner invested in them. And men can do this too.

SECRET 8:  Play Hard To Get

No one ever appreciates that which comes easily to them. Women know this better than anyone. If they are "too easy," chances are the guy will leave them after they've had their conquest.

The idea of playing hard to get makes the pursuer emotionally invest themselves in the outcome of their hunt.

By making a woman work for your affections, you are getting her to commit to wanting to be with you.

SECRET 9:  Be Adventurous

Being adventurous is different from doing what's unexpected. Adventure is about pushing boundaries and doing things that are new and outside your typical comfort zone.

Adventurous women intrigue men. They make them feel alive, and those good feelings become associated with the girl.

But it works both ways. An adventurous man will easily sweep a girl off her feet. He will make her feel alive, and open up how she experiences the world around her.

SECRET 10:  Use Your Sexuality

Women know that being sexual and using their sexuality is a powerful tool in attracting men. But men typically have no idea how to be sexual.

Men equate sexuality with women, because that's how they understand sex. But men can be sexy too, and being so will get women to become attracted just as easily as men are.

The difference here is that in order for a man to be sexy, he must ACT manly. He must show the best characteristics of what it is to be a man for the woman to get turned on.

Using your sexuality as a man means being strong, being brave, being aggressive, and allowing your masculine energy to radiate from you.

The more you are able to use your sexuality, the more women will respond to you.

How do I know this? Simple:


In my interview series The Secret Files, I sit down with real women and pick their brains about love, dating, sex, and pretty much anything else I can think of.

And wouldn't you know it? Most of the time women are more than happy to share their secrets with me!

It's like getting sneaky "insider information" whenever I want.

And here's the good news... I am opening up my Secret Files series for YOU, so now you can learn all the powerful attraction lessons women have to share.

After all - women KNOW about attraction. Way more than men do, at least.

And in the Secret Files, women are happy to SPILL THE BEANS about everything a guy needs to do to get women into them.

Seriously, this is like getting a first-class sexual education from women who KNOW everything there is to know about how to get them turned on.

Talk soon,

Joseph Matthews