How to Make Small Talk with Women
Why Small Talk Is Vital, Some Great Topics for Conversation, and Creating Attractive Conversations with Women
I had a chance to interview Bobby Rio, creator of Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy.
Since the topic of the program is creating more fun, flirtatious, and "sexual" conversations with women, I figured I'd get some tips out of him for improving your conversation skills and creating attraction in women.
1) Why Did You Decide to Put Out a Course on Small Talk?
Because it wasn't until I mastered "small talk" that I began to have consistent success with women.
And the funny thing is... almost no one tells you this. In fact, they tell you just the opposite, they say "avoid small talk."
Well, I went around for years avoiding small talk — and my conversations went nowhere.
I'm a naturally "introverted" guy. And the main reason that I struggled so long was because I didn't understand the basic principles behind having an engaging conversation.
And a HUGE realization I had was that in order to "inject" all of these attraction building techniques into a conversation, you need to be able to keep a conversation going!
Now, this course isn't on "small talk" the way you are used to thinking about it. The course shows you how to take normal, mundane "small talk" and turn it into a "sexy" conversation.
2) What Are the Best Topics to Talk About with a Woman?
The number one fear that holds most men back from approaching a woman they are interested in is the fear of awkward silences and running out of things to say. If you can inject your consciousness with a steady stream of topics... you'll be much more "quick witted" and this fear will eventually disappear... and you'll naturally find yourself talking to women wherever you are.
But not all topics are created equal.
And most will just bore her silly.
She doesn't want to hear about your job. She doesn't care about how long you've lived in your current city. And if one more guy asks her "Do you come hear often?" she will probably scream.
So what are some traits of topics that she DOES want to talk about? And more importantly... what are the traits of topics that will lead you to your desired outcome... ATTRACTION?
There are six main traits that good topics possess. A good topic should:
- build rapport
- create an emotional state
- make you three dimensional
- provide hooks to keep a conversation going
- allow you to display your attractive qualities
- lead to sexuality
So based on the six criteria listed above I've uncovered 12 almost magical topics that will lead you towards your objective of creating attraction.
They KEY is to have a handful of topics so that you don't run the risk of dwelling on any one of them too long.
Now, I don't have time to go into all 12... but I'm going to give you a few.
One of the best topics of conversation with women is early years and childhood.
We very rarely get a chance to talk about it. When we do, it opens up a floodgate of emotions.
If something stands out vividly in your mind years after it happened it will probably be interesting to the person you're talking to. For instance, I went to a nightmare of a sleep-a-way camp when I was young... and can still capture the attention of a room recounting the horrors of that experience.
You also want to ask her questions that will get her recounting her childhood experiences.
Not only does talking about our childhood bring out emotions many of us haven't felt in awhile... it also is a refreshing change of pace from our current reality. Plus it lends itself to humor, a sense of rapport, and with some skill can easily be transitioned into something on a more sexual level.
Another great topic for conversation is travel.
People love to talk about travel.
They key here is to let her talk. Don't feel the need to jump in immediately and tell your stories or brag about where you've been. Instead use it as an opportunity to dig deeper into her interests, desires, passions, and world views.
And have a couple of your own "travel stories" ready. Instead of just giving a laundry list of places you've been to... have one or two memorable stories from one of your recent adventures. (The more exotic the location the better.)
Travel is an attraction trigger. Women are naturally attracted to men who travel a lot. It makes them seem worldly and slightly out of reach.
Once you know what sort of topics make for best conversations with women... it is time to start introducing them into your conversations.
The best way to do this is through a technique I call "rooting."
Rooting means you say something that plants the seed of what you are about to say next.
For instance, if you want to begin talking about "early childhood memories" you could say something like:
"You totally have this way about you that reminds me of my third grade teacher Mrs. Robbins. Haha... I remember one time in that class..."
See how you easily began talking about "early childhood memories" by simply rooting it by telling her she reminds you of your third grade teacher.
3) What Is Something Guys Will Be Surprised to Learn in Conversation Escalation?
I think that guys are going to be surprised to learn how many techniques and tools are available to make a conversation more interesting and engaging — and I think they are going to kick themselves for not using them sooner.
For me, the biggest surprise as I began to uncover a lot of these tools was how simple they are to implement.
For instance, in this program we are going to show you how to "steer" a conversation along. How to spot the "hooks" a woman is giving you. You'll learn how to "bait" a woman into asking you about things you want to be talking about.
You're also going to learn how to inject "sexuality" into a conversation. Because ultimately, you can have an hour long amazing conversation with a woman, but if you don't get her thinking about you in a "sexual" way — it will be impossible to ever kiss her.
Now there are a ton of techniques you're going to learn that almost force you to become a more attractive talker. But more important than the techniques, I'm going to teach you a "specific" practice routine... so that this new way of communicating comes natural to you, and you remember to use the information when it counts — when you're talking to a woman.
The one thing I want to leave you with is: No matter how intimidated you are by the thought of becoming a "smooth talker" with women... you really are a lot closer than you think.
Once you make a handful of "tweaks" you'll find that you actually enjoy talking to women — and will begin to see how easy it is to create attraction.
To become a master at talking to and flirting with women, check out the very popular Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy and learn how to instantly generate attraction through the way you talk to women.