What If You're Afraid of Approaching Girls?
I'm like most of you reading the tips section. I'm just taking my first steps into the world of becoming a ladykiller. It's only been in the last couple of months that I started coming here and using all the tips and talking to girls and stuff.
I'm not thin. I'm not pretty. I have a crummy job. And after my breakup a couple of years ago, I had to move back in with my mom so I could have the money I need to go to school full time and pay the outrageous child-support I have to pay every month.
Not the greatest dating material right?
Well to top it all off I have been a chronic niceguy for my whole life.
So when I decided on that fateful day that enough was enough. After I had just gotten burned by a stupid girl who had nothing better to do than try to humiliate me even more, I expected it to be tough. I expected rejection, humiliation, frustration, lack of success.
But damnit I pictured that sorry little girl's face and the way she had played me for a fool and how that felt, and I saw red. I saw that no matter what I was going to have to go through, no matter how many times I got led on, shot down, ignored, ridiculed, etc... that by god I was going to show that ho, and everyone else, and myself... that I AM BETTER THAN THAT!
So I started, with my heart pounding and a lump in my throat, to talk to women...
At first I was only talking, I never asked them out.
I found this site and started reading. I read and read and read. I decided that a new wardrobe would help and I bought some nice cologne. And I started asking for numbers.
I knew the whole time of course that I was going to get thoroughly trounced, and prolly only get 1 number for every 20 or 30 girls I asked. I would never ask a girl if anyone else was around. I didn't want other people to see my pathetic effort and the denial that would surely come from it.
But you know what?
It wasn't that bad.
When I finally got up the nerve and started asking, sure there were times I got turned down. But more often than not I DIDN'T get turned down. And when I did it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.
Now, a couple of months into it, the approach doesn't worry me that much. Believe me, the real challenge starts after you get the number. Right now I'm still in a big learning curve there (meaning I don't do so hot!). But if I could learn the approach, I can learn the rest.
So all you fence-sitters out there, I hope you decide to stand up, get off the fence and start playing the game. Use the tips here on this forum and you won't go wrong. Take it from a guy like you...
It's really not that bad!