How to Approach and Talk to Women with Confidence

by Craig Reeves

Now let's say that you finally get up the nerve to approach this woman. The first question that comes to your mind, usually, is "What do I say?"

For some reason, we tend to focus a lot of attention on what it is we SAY, instead of HOW we say it. Think about it....what's really the most important aspect?

Remember back when you were young, and you might have done something wrong to your parents? If you were a good kid, you would say something like, "I'm sorry, mom" or something along those lines. If, however, you said that exact same sentence in a tone that showed a little too much attitude, they'd say something like "Watch your tone, boy!" or something like that. Do you get what I'm saying?

It doesn't matter what you say nearly as much
as HOW you say it.

If you walk up to a woman and you say, "Hey, what's up?" with 3 different attitudes, you are going to get 3 different responses.

Just like when you were young, and you said "I'm sorry mom." in 3 different ways, you would have gotten 3 different responses.

So now you ask...

"Well what tone should I use with a woman that I'm first approaching, and how do I pull this off if I'm so nervous?"

That's a very good question. We all know that confidence is very important when approaching a female. If you are not confident, the woman will notice it, and will naturally be turned off by it.

I mentioned earlier that WHAT you say isn't nearly as important as HOW you say it. If you walk up to an attractive woman and said, "Hey there, how's it going?" in a manner that displayed a LACK of confidence, this alone would turn her off.

Scary, huh?

So what can you do if you really ARE nervous
and unsure of yourself?

The answer to this goes deeper than what you say or do... it's how you look at the situation. It's your mindset. It's your belief.

The only surefire way that you are going to be able to correctly approach a woman is if you adopt the correct mindset and attitude of doing it.

The trick is to adopt the mindset and belief that not only are YOU interested HER, but SHE's interested in YOU, as well.

Most guys treat the woman as if HE's the only one with the interest, and is trying to win HERS. If, however, you start believing that the interest is ALREADY THERE, you will not fall into a trap of needlessly trying to win her approval/interest.

What YOU need to do is to speak and act toward her as if SHE's interested in YOU as well.

Now when I say this, I'm not talking at ALL about what you say, I'm only talking about HOW you say it. In fact, you could have the exact same conversation as you normally would with her, but your results will STILL vary greatly on your attitude, mindset, and belief.

So how do you adopt this mindset and belief?

The answer is to practice.

The next time you see a woman that you'd like to approach, mentally tell yourself over and over again that she'd probably love to get to know you just as much as you would like to get to know HER.

It is proven that the mind can truly only focus
on one thing at a time.

So if your mind is focusing on the fact that she's just as interested in you as you are her, then you will not be focusing on yourself and whether she would approve of you or not.

If you walked up to a woman and you said, "Hey there, how are you?", with the mindset and belief that SHE's interested in YOU, you're going to come off a LOT differently than if you were to say those same exact words with the mindset and belief that YOU'RE trying to win HER approval, yet SHE isn't trying to win YOURS.

Your comfort level when talking to a woman will increase greatly if you start thinking this way, because you will no longer feel as if all of the pressure is on you, nor will you be trying to fight so hard for something (her interest) that you already have.