When a Woman Treats You Badly
Probably the most important lesson I've learned from this board is that one should be sure to view a woman's behavior from an objective, 3rd person view.
Often, if we like a woman, we will justify her behavior when she does something we don't like.
Step back, ask yourself how would a 3rd person view her behavior?
If you find yourself saying, "Yeah, I don't like how she is treating me, but a 3rd person doesn't know X, Y, or Z" then you are justifying her behavior, making excuses for it. Always go with an objective analysis of how she is acting, not your own subjective view of how you want or wish it would be, or hope that it will be.
The first time this objective view says you are not being treated the way you want to be treated, you turn your back and walk away.
- you shouldn't waste physical or mental energy on someone who treats you poorly, and
- this is the best way to get the behavior you want
When Ignoring a Woman Works
Interestingly, it is said that ignoring a problem won't make it go away, but with chicks it is different.
- those who never got lots of attention in the past don't want to lose it, so they'll change their behavior to regain your graces
- those who are used to lots of attention will view your ignoring them as different, and that will attract them and make them change their behavior
And if, by walking away, that's the way it ends, hey, you didn't waste any energy once you objectively realized you were not being treated well.
Also, if you view women objectively, rather than subjectively, it takes much more time to become emotionally attached, and this prevents heartache since you realize quickly that this chick ain't good for you.