When to Praise and Affirm a Woman

by MrCasual

It's a tight wire we all walk.

I personally think that the trickiest situation with women is when to give her positive affirmation, and when to keep hold of your "guy thing attitude".

The "nice guy", of course, always affirms her. By this, I mean, he tells her exactly what he thinks she wants to hear, fawns over her, gives gifts, and is generally Mr. Positive. He never disagrees with her, and tries to find the perfect gentlemanly thing to say at all times.

The smarter guy rarely verbalizes his admiration of her. Instead, it's assumed. The subconscious message is "I like being with you because you're up to my standards." But he wisely withholds the flowery speech.

There's always a little bit he's holding back, waiting to see if she does measure up personality wise.

But there is an exact time to affirm her. And it is done out of a position of strength.

Be Strong When You Affirm Her

Wait until you get to know her, you've established that you are the guy, she's the girl, and you're in control. Preferably this should be on a day when she's feeling a little bit low and she's making self deprecating comments about herself such as "I can't seem to do anything right lately."

Note that this is not a time when she's fishing for admiration or control. She genuinely needs a strong man right now. This is the moment that you become husband material for her. Here's how you do it...

Pause for a second, and then say:

"I've loved getting to know you in the past 6 months, and I've learned one thing about you, which is one of the reasons I'm still dating you! You're going to make it through this, and you'll be the stronger for it when you do. With me right here beside you, the battle's already won!"

Don't use those exact words. Make them your own.

But I can tell you that if you're there in her moment of crisis at the right time, she'll develop an emotional attachment to you that can lead to her putting you on her exclusive dating list, and never taking you off.