3 Sneaky Ways a Woman Will Test You

Learn when to walk away, when to speak up, and when to just smile and keep winning.

by DeepBlue

Three games women play include:

1. Playing hard to get by being less available than you'd like.
2. Giving attention to other guys to make you jealous.
3. Treating you like a doormat to see if you allow it.

All three of these games serve the same goal of testing your neediness level. Like a bat sending out sonar waves to get a sense of where the cave walls are, she is "pinging" you to get feedback on how badly you want or need her.

But the first two games are very different from the third.

Regarding number three, you can and should call her on it.

If she is treating you like a doormat then ALLOWING it conveys neediness. It says you don't dare to stand up for yourself because you're afraid that if you do, you might lose her.

So regarding situation three, you should call her on it because doing nothing is what conveys neediness and then you would "fail the test."

Games one and two are the EXACT REVERSE of game three.

If she is playing hard to get or if she's spending time with other guys to make you jealous, then the mere fact that you NOTICE it as something she's "doing to you" and the fact that you're upset by it is what conveys neediness.

And you lose.

Instead of needing her so much, what you really need is to have enough success with women in general so that her playing hard to get or her giving attention to other guys doesn't ruin your day, doesn't upset you, and doesn't fill you with an angry urge to "call her on it."

The tricky thing is that when you really like a woman, then situations one and two can end up feeling like situation three, even though they are very different.

So the challenge is to recognize those situations where you win by calling her on it, versus those situations where you win by NOT being (or at least not seeming) the least bit bothered by what she is doing.