The Paradox of Desire In Relationships

You Don't Know What You Have Until It's Gone

by Robert Jordon

Desire often creates paradoxical effects...

The more you want something, the more you chase after it, the more it eludes you.

The more interest you show, the more you repel the object of your desire because your interest is too strong.

Uncontrollable desire makes you seem weak, unworthy, pathetic.

You need to turn your back on what you want. Show your contempt and disdain. This is the kind of powerful response that will drive your targets crazy.

They will respond with a desire of their own, which is simply to have an effect on you — perhaps to possess you.

If choosing to ignore enhances your power, it follows that the opposite approach — commitment and engagement — often weakens you.

Your best approach in attracting the girl you desire is to first show her what you have to offer. For example, show her you're fun, honest, intelligent, confident.

In other words, show her some attention at first.

Then withdraw this attention from her, so as to confuse her.

Ignoring her will make you appear more worthy, more powerful.

The reason for giving her that initial attention is so that she is aware of what she is missing out on. Of what she has lost.

If you start off right away by ignoring her, it will have very little effect on her because she won't be aware of what she has lost.

It's true what they say:

You don't know what you have until you have it no longer.

SoSuave Note: In order to attract girls, we sometimes do things that seem completely illogical. But everything has its own logic. And there is no "magic" involved in getting girls.

To master the art of attracting women, you must be both unpredictable and uncontrollable.