What to Say When She Asks You What You Do For a Living

by Allen Thompson

If you're getting anywhere with a woman, eventually she's going to ask you what you do for a living. This question can make some guys nervous.

Many guys feel that their job is nothing special. They're not a doctor or lawyer. They don't make a lot of money. In fact, they may not even like what they do for a living.

Some guys may try to brush off the question... giving a quick answer and then changing the topic. Other guys may lie, giving themselves a nice prestigious position in a large company. And some will be completely honest in describing what they do... but do so in such a boring fashion that the woman winds up sorry she asked.

So what should you say?

Yes, it would be ideal if you could say that you're a movie director, or a brain surgeon, or a double-knot spy. But what's most important is not what you do, but the positivity and enthusiasm with which you describe what you do (and hopefully with which you do what you do).

If you insinuate that your job is not that great, that you don't particularly like it, or you're there because "Hey, it pays the bills," she's going to lose respect for you. Why? Because she's thinking that only a "loser" would stay at a job he dislikes. And she doesn't want to be with a loser. She wants to spend her valuable time in the presence of a winner.


When she asks you what you do, you tell the truth... but you tell it positively and with enthusiasm. There are good things and bad things about every job. No matter what you do there are positive things about it... hopefully things you can get excited about. Your goal is to discover and focus on the good things about your job.

And if you're a student, consider that your job. And be sure to describe it with positivity and enthusiasm... with maybe a few hints about your plans for the future thrown in.

Your mission — if you choose to accept it — is to get a piece of paper and write a couple paragraphs about your job describing it in a positive and enthusiastic fashion. When you have it tweaked to perfection, you memorize it, and practice your delivery of these breath-taking lines.

And the next time you're asked what you do for a living, you'll be prepared, ready, and confident. And she'll be blown away!

Allen Thompson
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