Do What You Know You Must

by Carlos Xuma

Here's a syndrome I've noticed many times. See if this fits you:

"Gee, I really like this girl. She's the ONE, man. But I know what I have to do to not lose this one. I need to not call her tonight. I'll be a challenge just like they say. I won't call her. I'll wait."

5 minutes pass.

"But... gee, I can't help myself! I really like this one! She's different! But ... I have to ... show ... discipline..."

30 seconds pass.


Sound of fingers dialing the phone... Answering machine kicks in: "Hi! This is Sheila! I'm at home monitoring my calls, but you can leave a loser message at the beep! Bye!"

"Sheila?" (Desperation apparent in voice) "I just wanted to call you and tell you I love you and I know you know it, so I won't try to hide it anymore. I know this will make you fall in love with me, so please call me back."

Hours pass. No return call.

Sound of head pounding wall in bathroom. Weeping ensues.

What's wrong with this scene?

We all KNOW what we have to do, but we lack the DISCIPLINE to DO IT!

To every guy who struggles with practicing the tactics we discuss here, find the strength within yourself to DO the things you know you must do. There is no easy way around it. No simple fix. JUST DO IT is all that can be said.

The trick of our low self-esteem is that we convince ourselves that doing what we think we WANT to do is okay if we just think about it enough and rationalize it so that it sounds good.

NO! Cultivate the strength to do what you know you need to, and if you do, you'll win. Bottom line.

Most people don't change their behavior until they reach a breaking point, and usually it's an unhealthy choice made from anger or despair. Remember: If you keep doing what you've been doing, you'll keep getting what you've been getting.

Stop the illusions from ruining your love life.

Carlos Xuma