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How to Make Meeting Women Easy

by Joseph Matthews

Question from a student:

Hello Joe,

Iím still a little confused on some of your openers. Iíll use my intruder and say "hey guys," and give a time constraint, but after that Iíll forget everything or mix up the lines.

What are some easy tricks to help me out?

I also have a problem with approaching, especially if someone says "go talk to her" or tries to force me to approach.

What do you at bars that have loud music?


My response:

Wow, three questions for the price of one. I must be feeling generous today. =)

Okay, Iíll field these one at a time...

The first thing I want to say is:


If youíre trying to memorize so much that you break out into cold-sweat performance anxiety when approaching, youíre doing something WRONG.

Approaching should be kept as simple as possible.

If you have trouble, just work on memorizing 1 good opener that you use over and over again.

I have an opener that I always use, and it never fails me.

This way, I donít have to think about what to say to a girl. I just automatically know!

And if your brain freezes up, hereís a great trick to keep things moving along easily...


Keep asking her questions until you find something you can talk to her about.

Just remember to have a good time doing it.

If youíre uneasy, nervous, or uptight, its going to affect the girl youíre talking to in a negative way.

So learn to control your anxiety!

The second part of your question has to do with peer pressure.

Iím all for people who help motivate you to approach women. But if theyíre pushing you to do something you donít feel youíre ready for, that can be tough.


Because you run the risk of KILLING your confidence. Thatís why.

You must protect your confidence at all costs!

Thatís what will get you the women.

So take your time. Donít feel rushed to meet women.


Donít use this as an excuse NOT to approach.

If a buddy of yours is egging you on to approach a women, be sure to do so, but on YOUR terms.

Take your time. Think about what to say. Study her for a bit. Figure out the best way to approach.

Finally, when it comes to noisy bars and clubs, hereís what I do.

Iíll usually hang out in the quiet places of a club, like the patio area, or where people go to smoke. Itís much easier to approach women there.

But, if youíre in the club, you can do two things...

The first is to TALK LOUDER.

Be high energy, high volume, and use the same techniques I teach in The Art of Approaching. Works like a charm.

The second option is to go more physical.

Physically lead a woman into a quieter part of the bar or club and then talk to her there.

Some guys may call this the "caveman" approach, but it still works pretty good.

Iíll usually say something like:

"Hey, come with me. I want to tell you something..."

Then Iíll take her by the hand and lead her to a quieter spot.

Now, all this stuff should be second nature to you by now IF youíve read my book The Art of Approaching.

No other course on the market will teach you the secrets you need to know to meet the woman of your dreams.

By the time Iím done with you, youíll have more women than you can handle!

So if you havenít already, click on this link:

Click Here to Start Meeting Beautiful Women Right Now!

And get your own copy of The Art of Approaching today.

The sooner you get it, the sooner you can find the woman of your dreams.

Talk soon,

Joseph Matthews

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