Recently, I've begun directing a question to the female subscribers
in certain issues of The Don Juan Newsletter... help us "clueless"
guys out a little so to speak. Here's what they have to say....
What's the Worst Date You've Ever Been On?
About four years ago I went on a really bad date. Trent, a guy I knew very casually,
called me up and asked if I would like to go to dinner and see a movie. Now although that
isn't a very creative or exciting date idea, there is nothing wrong with it...it is a
classic date for a reason. The problem was the movie he selected. He didn't ask if I had
any suggestions, and he took me to see the new (at the time) James Bond movie, Golden Eye.
The movie had a lot of wild sex scenes and masochism. The levels in the movie were not to
the point of being offensive, but they made me extremely uncomfortable. I didn't know
Trent all that well, and every time one of those scenes came on, I could feel my cheeks
burning and I wanted nothing more than to be somewhere else...with someone else. Guys, if
you are going the movie route, please do your research. Find out. from female friends if
possible, if it would be a good first date movie. And ask the girl if she has any
suggestions. FYI- this date was not a deal-breaker...Trent and I ended up dating for
several months...so there is hope even after a bad date!
My boyfriend at the time had kids from a previous relationship. Something I wasn't too
thrilled about, but what nailed his coffin shut was inviting me to his kids first birthday
party when we had only gone out twice. Not a good scene to be in the middle of inquiring
family members so early in the relationship. Needless to say, I didn't stay with him much
The worst dates are when the man is too opinionated about issues I hold dear. I am a
vegetarian, and when the conversation turns toward food, I want him to respect my choice.
I know that not many people are vegetarians, and I don't expect my date to be vegetarian,
but I DO expect him to NOT try to convert me to eating meat or argue with me about my
eating habits. The same goes with religion and politics. The biggest date spoiler is lack
of respect for someone you're trying to get to know better.
The worst date...accidental role reversal! I watched college ball during dinner, and he
whined and cried that I wasn't paying any attention to him!!
The worst date would have to be one in which the guy could not take his hands and put
them in the right spots. I don't have a for sale sign on me and I don't want one. Nice
gentleness means so much more. Sex on the first date is not mandatory. If it is given, be
nice. One night stands are not very wonderful, unless that is just what you both want. You
need to make yourselves clear from the start. If you aren't going to call again, tell us.
Without a doubt, one of the worst dates I've ever had was the guy, a few weeks ago, who
spent 3 hours discussing the technical minutiae of computer installation. I got lost after
the first five minutes, couldn't ask any questions because I didn't have a clue what he
was saying, just kept saying "mmhmm", and he decided I was the best
conversationalist he'd met in years. Adding insult to injury, when the date was over, he
expected me to pay half. I am willing to go out with a bore a second time, to see if he
was just nervous on the first date, but I'm not willing to pay for the privilege of being
The worst date I have ever been on was quite recent. Last Friday, my sweet pea took me
to A gas station for dinner! It stunk like smoke and urine, and it was really cheap. To
make it worse, I dressed up, because he told me that we were going someplace nice. Halfway
through the meal, when Sweet Pea was in the little boy's room, a trucker asked me for my
digits! I was shocked and appalled. Sweet Pea and I are still going out, because I still
love him. (he smells funny, though. Oh well, I'll buy him cologne...)
Any date directly after he has just broken up with his "latest" ex.
My worst date was one we had to do for a high school project. The idea of the project
was to ask different guys out, plan a date, go out, then do an evaluation.
One guy I asked was generally rather the athletic type, so I suggested we could play
racquetball, even though personally I'd rather have watched a video.
The guy just said "fine by me" (or something in that vein).
Turns out (from the evaluation), that he would also rather have watched a video.
Two things learned from that: first, get your date to make a suggestion too, and second,
if someone asks you out and you aren't exactly thrilled by their idea make a different
suggestion yourself, you might be surprised!!
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