The Nice Guy's Guide to Becoming More Alpha (And Actually Getting Laid)

Welcome to Your Alpha Upgrade!

by Alan Suave

Let's get one thing straight:

Being a nice guy isn't the problem.

The problem is thinking that being nice is ENOUGH.

You show up on time. You remember her mom's birthday. You never swear, never push, never rock the boat. You're polite, respectful, and (on paper) the perfect gentleman.

And yet... you're still sleeping alone.

Here's the cold truth:

Women don't fall for nice guys. They fall for INTERESTING guys. For men who command a room without saying a word. For guys who radiate confidence, purpose, and just a hint of danger.

That's not to say you should become a jackass. But if you want to stop being the guy she LIKES and start being the guy she CRAVES, it's time to stop apologizing for existing...

And start becoming the man you were meant to be.

Welcome to the Alpha Upgrade!!!

Step 1: Stop Seeking Permission

Nice guys ask for approval. Alphas operate with authority.

You don't need permission to speak, to flirt, to take up space. Every time you say "Sorry," "I don't mean to bother you," or "You're probably too busy," you're reinforcing your own irrelevance.

Try this instead: OWN YOUR PRESENCE.

Walk into a bar like you belong there.

Look a woman in the eye like you're not asking her for anything — you're deciding whether you're interested in her.

Speak with conviction, not hesitation. Say what you mean. Mean what you say.

Confidence isn't arrogance.

It's simply the refusal to shrink yourself.

Step 2: Develop a Spine (And Use It)

Nice guys avoid conflict like it's the plague.

They'll smile through disrespect, laugh off dismissive comments, and swallow their pride to "keep the peace."

Newsflash: peace is overrated.

Especially when it costs you your self-respect.

Being alpha means you set BOUNDARIES — and enforce them.

If she flakes, don't chase.

If she talks down to you, call it out — calmly, firmly, without drama.

If she's hot one day and cold the next, walk away.

You're not here to win a participation trophy.

You're here to live with power and integrity.

When you stop tolerating weak behavior, people start treating you like someone worth respecting.

And RESPECT is the foundation of attraction.

Step 3: Lead — Don't Follow

Nice guys wait. They wait for the right moment. The right text. The right sign.

Alphas create MOMENTUM.

If you like her, invite her out. Not with a "Hey, what are you doing this weekend?" — that's a question begging for rejection.

Say: "I'm grabbing drinks at that new rooftop bar Friday. Be there at 8. Wear something dark."

Notice the difference? One is a request. The other is a plan.

Women don't want to lead the dance. They want a man who knows where he's going — and PULLS them along for the ride.

Be the guy who makes decisions. Who picks the bar, sets the vibe, and takes control of the moment.

Not with force, but with quiet certainty.

Step 4: Cultivate Your Inner Fire

Nice guys are defined by what they DON'T do.

Don't get angry, don't get loud, don't get bold.

Alphas are defined by what they DO.

They pursue goals, chase passions, live with intensity.

If you want to be attractive, then stop being safe.

Train your body like a weapon. Speak your mind — even when it's uncomfortable. Take risks. Travel solo. Start that business. Learn to fight. Laugh too loud. Fail publicly. Get back up.

When you're driven by purpose, women don't have to wonder if you're "interesting." They can FEEL it.

Passion is magnetic.

A life half-lived is not.

Step 5: Flirt Like You Mean It

Nice guys flirt like they're submitting a job application: polite, rehearsed, painfully careful.

Alpha flirting? It's playful, unpredictable, and loaded with intent.

Here's how it works:

1) Tease, don't please.

Say something bold with a smirk. "You're trouble. I can tell." Then walk away.

2) Touch early, touch often.

Light touch on the arm. A hand on the small of her back as you guide her through a crowd. Make it natural. Make it confident.

3) Leave her wanting more.

Don't spill your life story. Don't cling. Create mystery. Then disappear. On your terms.

Flirting isn't about winning her over.

It's about showing her what she's missing if she doesn't step up.

Final Word: Alpha Isn't a Costume. It's a Commitment.

You don't "act" alpha. You BECOME it.

It's not about being loud, aggressive, or disrespectful.

It's about being grounded, decisive, and unapologetically yourself.

You don't need to grow a beard, drive a sports car, or bench 300 pounds.

You just need to stop hiding.

Stop seeking validation. Stop playing small. Stop treating every interaction like a test you might fail.

Be kind — but don't be passive.

Be respectful — but don't be weak.

Be a gentleman — but never a doormat.

The world doesn't reward nice guys.

It rewards men who lead, who stand tall, who live with fire in their chest and a mission in their eyes.

So stop waiting.

Start becoming.

And watch what happens when you finally stop being NICE...

And start being ALPHA.

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And if you're still missing the fundamentals — the exact lines, mindset shifts, and social hacks that make this all click...

Be sure the check out The 22 Rules That Let Me Go From Zero to Hero With Women.

Men who study it, learn it, and live it... frequently go from invisible to UNSTOPPABLE with women.

And it's FREE!